What do you do when your goals / priorities seem to be different from hers?

I still want to go to university with a husband and two children, but it means selling the house and my car for something smaller. And to go out every weekend without the other isn't working for me either.

Kids, the second of the first marriage, the third carrier goals. If you mess with the program to prepare to go it alone. And why did you leave without the other? This is a recipe for disaster. Your degree means your children must find another home? Maybe you should look more closely at your priorities.

His/Hers $12.78 Zelienople’s fifth full-length CD is a keeper, no doubt about it. It seems that Matt Christensen, Mike Weis, and Brian Harding have hit their stride, perfecting their approach to music as a group to a level on par with bands like Charalambides, Jackie-O Motherfucker, and Low — instantly recognizable yet still very creative. His/Hers features five long, slow, feeling-laden songs. A bit of shoegazing, a lot of slowcore, a psychedelic sensibility, but also a strong folk song feel all inform Zelienople’s music. Tempi are extremely slow and notes are usually few and far between, with plenty of empty space to hear the guitar amps hum away, but the music remains cohesive and never sounds lazy or easy (except maybe at the beginning of “Sweet Ali,” a weaker moment arrangement-wise). The album begins relatively smoothly with “Family Beast,” a piece that quickly sets the tone: slow-paced guitar picking, delicate guitar wailings, and Spartan percussion with plenty of skin and cymbal rubbing. His/Hers hits its peaks halfway through, with “Parts Are Lost” and “Forced March,” two bewitching tracks where brooding atmosphere, emotional charge, and conceptual development are best balanced. A ton of bands from New Zealand, Scandinavia, and Rhode Island could be name-dropped here as points of comparison, but His/Hers stands above most of these bands’ productions, mostly because it has character and holds together as a thought-over artistic proposition, instead of simply documenting experiments in progress. This album deserves to rank among the best the so-called New Weird America has to offer. A low-key highlight of 2007. ~ François Couture, Rovi

His & Hers $15.98 This 1950s recording pairs the electrifying accordionist Charles Magnante with the smoldering vocalist LaVergne Smith. Accompanied lightly by banjo, Magnante’s virtuosic set ranges from Twelfth Street Rag and the tango La cu cumparsita to Chopin’s Minute Waltz. Smith’s set of smoky vocal and piano duos recalls the Old Absinthe House in New Orleans’ French Quarter and includes classics such as Lover Man and Straighten Up and Fly Right.

His N Hers $7.94 Pulp had been kicking around since 1981, but for all intents and purposes, their 1994 major-label debut, His ‘n’ Hers is their de facto debut: the album that established their musical and lyrical obsessions and, in turn, the album where the world at large became acquainted with their glassy, tightly wound synth pop and lead singer Jarvis Cocker’s impeccably barbed wit. This was a sound that was carefully thought out, pieced together from old glam and post-punk records, assembled in so it had the immediacy (and hooks) of pop balanced by an artful obsession with moody, dark textures. It was a sound that perfectly fit the subject at hand: it was filled with contradictions — it was sensual yet intellectual, cheap yet sophisticated, retro yet modern — with each seeming paradox giving the music weight instead of weighing it down. Given Pulp’s predilection for crawling mood pieces — such effective set pieces as the tense “Acrylic Afternoons,” or the closing “David’s Last Summer” — and their studied detachment, it might easy to over-intellectualize the band, particularly in these early days before they reached stardom, but for all of the chilliness of the old analog keyboards and the conscious geek stance of Cocker, this isn’t music that aims for the head: its target is the gut and groin, and His ‘n’ Hers has an immediacy that’s apparent as soon as “Joyriders” kicks the album into gear with its crashing guitars. It establishes Pulp not just as a pop band that will rock; it establishes an air of menace that hangs over this album like a talisman. As joyous as certain elements of the music are — and there isn’t just joy but transcendence here, on the fuzz guitars that power the chorus of “Lipgloss,” or the dramatic release at the climax of “Babies” — this isn’t light, fizzy music, no matter how the album glistens on its waves of cold synths and echoed guitars, no matter how much sex drives the music here. Cocker doesn’t tell tales of conquests: he tells tales of sexual obsession and betrayal, where the seemingly nostalgic question “Do You Remember the First Time?” is answered with the reply, “I can’t remember a worst time.” On earlier Pulp albums he explored similar stories of alienation, but on His ‘n’ Hers everything clicks: his lyrics are scalpel sharp, whether he’s essaying pathos, passion, or wit, and his band — driven by the rock-solid drummer Nick Banks and bassist Steve Mackey, along with the arty stylings of keyboardist Candida Doyle and violinist/guitarist Russell Senior — gives this muscle and blood beneath its stylish exterior. The years etching out Joy Division-inspired goth twaddle in the mid-’80s pay off on the tense, dramatic epics that punctuate the glammy pop of the singles “Lipgloss,” “Babies,” and “Do You Remember the First Time?” And those years of struggle pay off in other ways too, particularly in Cocker’s carefully rendered observations of life on the fringes of Sheffield, where desperation, sex, and crime are always just a k

101 Nights of Grrreat Sex: Revolutionise Your Sex Life with 101 Secret Sealed Seductions $4.12 Used – This is the book that got more than a million couples back in the bedroom, with rekindled passion, hot romance, and a whole bunch of new techniques. This is also the book that introduced the world to the secret sealed seduction. It’s simple: * Inside the book, there are 101 sealed envelopes – 50 Sealed Secret Seductions For His Eyes Only and 50 For Hers * Once a week, you and your lover each pick a page and tear it out of the book * Read Laura’s recipe for seduction in private – no peekin

8 Sandpiper Way $10.69 Used – Welcome to Cedar Cove- a small town with a big heart! Could the town’s minister be having an affair? His wife, Emily, thinks he is! She found an earring in his pocket and it’s not hers. Worse, some jewellery was recently stolen from an old woman – and Dave used to visit her a lot. He’s a minister and a good man. Emily can’t believe he’s guilty of anything, but why won’t he tell her where he’s been when he comes home so late? Meanwhile, Sheriff Troy Davis’s love-life is heating up since Fa

8 Sandpiper Way $8.72 New – Welcome to Cedar Cove- a small town with a big heart! Could the town’s minister be having an affair? His wife, Emily, thinks he is! She found an earring in his pocket and it’s not hers. Worse, some jewellery was recently stolen from an old woman – and Dave used to visit her a lot. He’s a minister and a good man. Emily can’t believe he’s guilty of anything, but why won’t he tell her where he’s been when he comes home so late? Meanwhile, Sheriff Troy Davis’s love-life is heating up since Fai

8 Sandpiper Way $12.75 Used – Welcome to Cedar Cove- a small town with a big heart! Could the town’s minister be having an affair? His wife, Emily, thinks he is! She found an earring in his pocket and it’s not hers. Worse, some jewellery was recently stolen from an old woman – and Dave used to visit her a lot. He’s a minister and a good man. Emily can’t believe he’s guilty of anything, but why won’t he tell her where he’s been when he comes home so late? Meanwhile, Sheriff Troy Davis’s love-life is heating up since Fa

8 Sandpiper Way $12.75 Used – Welcome to Cedar Cove- a small town with a big heart! Could the town’s minister be having an affair? His wife, Emily, thinks he is! She found an earring in his pocket and it’s not hers. Worse, some jewellery was recently stolen from an old woman – and Dave used to visit her a lot. He’s a minister and a good man. Emily can’t believe he’s guilty of anything, but why won’t he tell her where he’s been when he comes home so late? Meanwhile, Sheriff Troy Davis’s love-life is heating up since Fa